One of the chief factors involved here is the reversal of general hierarchies and boundaries in the family; for the first time in history kids know about a topic better than their parents and this creates and knowledge (and therefore power) imbalance in the family system; for our kids, whom I call Generation-D, this technology, is like a toaster is to those of us who were not weaned on digital media and video game technology. This lack of knowledge can be a complicating factor when parents attempt to understand or intervene with their children’s Internet and video game use. Specialized treatments are necessary and appropriate for those children, adolescents, young adults, as well as adults, to address this growing problem. Although more research is clearly […]
Cyber Bullying be easily accomplished online as the Internet affords an indirect (non-confrontational) method to express a variety of emotions without actually facing the person; I call this threshold reduction and it is a hallmark of why the Internet promotes cyber bullying so easily. There is no one to look at in the eye or to face when bullies make these comments and the Internet medium creates a sense of disinhibition, which along with threshold reduction make it fertile ground for the damaging effects of cyber bullying; and this is further amplified by the fact that the Internet implies indirect intimidation. Cyber bullies often utilize Facebook as an ideal platform. Facebook is the world’s largest peer-comparison platform. People are both attracted and repelled to it, but everyone uses and sees it. Facebook and other social media outlets including You Tube, Instagram, Twitter and others make it too easy for anyone to broadcast, without permission, anything they want about anyone they want. This power is far too intoxicating for many bullies, and far too damaging some the their victims of such destructive postings.
What is cyber Bullying? It can include social exclusion, social comparison and competition, defamatory statements, and/or sexual harassment. […]
Mindfulness teaches the ability to stay present in the moment and to practice the skill of experiencing living in the here and now. Although not an easy task, there are well documented medical and psychological benefits from practicing mindfulness. The use and over-use of digital technology, like a Smartphone, is the antithesis of being mindfully present. When you are online or on the device you are not really present to yourself, your environment, or others’ around you.
You are shifting time and space and when you are on your Smartphone texting, emailing, tweeting, or surfing—the implied message to the world around you and your you own nervous system is that it is NOT ok where you are in the moment and that you’d rather be somewhere else.
Instead of always looking for immediate and accessible digital distraction and if you want to be present in your real-time life, you’d be pausing and experiencing what was actually around you and not on a screen. The net effect of screen-living is that we end up missing out on our lives because […]
There’s been three decades of violent video games and as Grand Theft Auto, the reigning king of all of them, releases its fifth installment, we have to wonder, how have these games actually affected this generation?
North America’s very first internet addiction rehab program opened in Pennsylvania earlier this month — and the program’s founder says there’s no shortage of users seeking help.
While some hail the program as a trailblazing service, others argue that the still-controversial diagnosis doesn’t belong in the same category as alcoholism and drug addiction.
To debate the division, we’ve convened a Q debate. Joining us today are:
- David Greenfield: a pioneer in the field of Internet addiction. He’s the founder of The Center for Internet and Technology Addiction and an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine.
- Allen Frances: is a former chairman of the task force for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which sets the standard for the psychiatric profession. He’s the author most recently of Saving Normal: An Insider’s Revolt Against Out-of-Control Psychiatric Diagnosis, DSM-5, Big Pharma, and the Medicalization of Ordinary Life.
Do you see yourself as an internet addict, or know someone who might be? Or are you skeptical about the diagnosis, and/or concerned that everyday life is being pathologized?
(originally posted on CBCradio)
What allows us to change something in our lives? How do we change some aspect of ourselves that we don’t like, such as a habit, physical quality, or life circumstance? The first step may seem counter intuitive. Our initial tendency when we don’t like something about ourselves is to either avoid thinking about it or to actively criticize ourselves for what we are doing or not doing–almost as a means of forcing the negative feeling out of ourselves. Therein lays our error in thinking. Most things we don’t like about ourselves have to do with the refusal to accept and love ourselves, just as we are because we feel we cannot accept/love ourselves as long as we have or do this thing we hate. In other words, our self-love and acceptance is contingent upon an inner ideal of perfection. Whether it is a physical attribute or a personality characteristic, our refusal to love and accept ourselves seem linked to the idea that; “if I have what I want or look the way I want, then and only then I could feel ok”. The problem with this way of thinking is that it is not the way the heart and […]